The Great Passion Checklist!

The great Passion Checklist!

So what is passion?

If ever anyone asks me what I look for in the bedroom, or what turns me on the answer is passion. Its the thing I've hungered the longest for in life, and the thing that I'll continue to strive for with any relationship I have. I've had the train of thought running round my head this week about what it is that I define as passion - how to differentiate it from other things.

I guess what it boils down to is two things: first when I make love with you I want to feel you feeling me, and I want you to feel me feeling you. I want to sense your energy - your heartbeat, your breath, want to see and hear and feel and smell you reacting to my touch. want to sense your heart beat speed up or slow down, feel your breath in my ear, or your teeth when you bite my neck. Goosebumps and saliva, fingernails and feathers.

Its not about fast or slow, hard or soft, 20 positions or just the one, although it translates to all of the above.

The other thing that defines it is being in the moment. Too many times in the past I've had sex where its almost been like a strategic exercise - goal orientated - everything is about planning where the next orgasm is coming from and who's having it. Now I understand that when you're really tuned into someone its almost irrelevant whether you cum or not. if your really immersed in someone then the sex is good right now -in this moment, and the next, and the next. Orgasms should be something that you get round to eventually.

The best times just roll from passion to laughter and cuddles and back to passion again, like waves lapping at the beach.

QUESTION: what does passion mean to you? I'm sure its a very personal thing and this is just my perspective, so what would you add to this?